Being Present Moving Forward

A blog about meditation & personal growth by psychic Janet Wright

Energy & Spiritual Realities for Those Grieving

OK so this is part 2 of a three post series inspired by a client & blog reader’s question “What meditations would you recommend after the death of a loved one?” If you haven’t read part 1, it was posted yesterday 7/1/15. So thanks to post 1 we know that a person who crossed over is doing great in Heaven.

So what about the loved ones still “alive” or in their lifetimes?
This post begins to discuss how everyone who loves that person and is still in his/her lifetime is doing dealing with this “death” or crossing over or passing of their loved one.

Let’s talk terms….
By the way, every person I have ever spoken with who is in Heaven does not really like that term “dying” or “dead” or even “gone” since none of that is true. Their spirits are very much alive, and once they complete some of their initial healings and their life review process in Heaven, they can visit their loved ones very often. For example, if I read a client who’s spouse or friend crossed over say a year ago and the client says “I lost him a year ago.” The husband’s spirit is standing right next to the client and says to me and them “Really? I’m right here. Lost? I visit you six times a day, every day. Also I come every time you call me (silently with your mind).” I explain to the client that it’s her walls of grief that keep her from feeling her Heaven-husband’s continuing love and support. I congratulate her and let her know how much grief she’s cleared already, and then we explore how she move forward to clear even more.

Early on it is different….
The first five to ten days after their crossing over is when they are most busy in Heaven and often interact less, so unfortunately that is hard for those still living who do not understand and it makes them miss the person even more as they feel an absence of the person’s energy and communications. So for example, let’s say Betty crosses over on June 1st. She’s in Heaven feeling pretty wonderful and peaceful, getting healing, gaining additional wisdom and insight about the life she just had by her life review the angels give her. Betty was a pretty upbeat gal during her life so she doesn’t need as much initial healing, so she’s able to visit her loved ones still in their lifetimes by June 6th. Let’s say her memorial was on June 4th, so of course she came to that and was touched by what people said, but also what people felt but did not say. Her angels also showed her the feelings and sentiments of those who commemorated her life or thought of her on their own in a more private way, which touched her too.

We all grieve differently….
Part of why everyone grieves differently is because the death of a loved one is a big trigger for many things both conscious and subconscious. So essentially lots of baggage gets triggered, and this can be overwhelming. This can also complicate relations between various loved ones. For example, Betty’s adult kids Bobby, Barb, and Becky may not all see eye to eye about Betty’s funeral arrangements, or how fast or slow the estate should be settled. Underneath, their discord is caused by deep emotional baggage about many things, including old repressed sibling rivalries, even repressed feelings of abandonment, or unprocessed childhood feelings towards Betty and her late husband Bo. Even just repressed fear of death, or life dissatisfactions that the adult kids have about their own lives can complicate their experience of their mother’s passing, and affect their treatment of each other. In their stressed states of expectation and anxiety, these adult siblings Bobby, Barb, and Becky could drain each other by creating energy chords to each other’s chakras. For example the sibling that’s the most stuck can become the most opinionated and chord the others. Then the one who wants to be mellow but in a manipulative sense wants the bossy one to chill out will chord her too. Their imbalanced state may trigger judgement and repressed anger, leading to them whacking each other over what seem like tiny disagreements. On the other hand, in a purely amicable situation, they could be mutually supportive but over bond with energy chords that last and pin down their baggage so they can’t clear much of it, causing them to feel very detached, out of body, and exhausted, like they are numb or frozen in time.

Self-Healing to the rescue!
Grief and baggage being triggered is inevitable, but you can make it relatively much more manageable and light if you know how to heal yourself and clear baggage. So as usual self-care and one of it’s most potent forms- meditation, can help! Stay tuned to the next blog post for more specific details and tips……
Thank you for reading this post. Any thoughts? Hello? Your comments, suggestions, & questions are welcome here below. :-)

Spiritual Basics about Crossing over into Heaven

I love to get comments on my blog post (hint, hint). Today I got a comment from a client and blog reader. Her question was “What meditations would you recommend after the death of a loved one?” Beneath her comment I gave her some quick tips based on what I saw w/her energy. Beyond that, I think this is such a universal question that I am dedicating the next three blog posts to answering it. This first post covers the basic spiritual concepts around crossing over. These views are my own, based on reading thousands of people and their angels over the years. Also one disclaimer, I am not a medium, meaning my specialty is not to communicate with those crossed over. So if your main and only concern and focus is to get detailed proof that Heaven exists and that your loved one is in Heaven I’m not your reader. My specialty is personal growth of those here in the life. It is my intention that these posts may help you and others like you.

The spirit lives on
Death is only the death of the physical body. The spirit lives on. This is not just a nice-to-say little platitude, it is literal. The part of your spirit that leaves your body every night when your body sleeps is the same part of your spirit that will still be around once your body dies. This part of your spirit, or astral body, will cross over or go to heaven, which from all accounts I’ve heard from people now in heaven, feels great. I’ve heard various descriptions of crossing over, but my favorite is that it feels like a fun water slide that goes up. Others say it’s a lot like a peaceful upward escalator. Sometimes if the death is sudden, the experience of crossing over is very fast. The spirit is just suddenly aware of themselves in heaven, feeling 10% temporarily puzzled and 90% fantastic.

Divine Timing for crossing over is real
This means that if someone crossed over it was at a Divinely allowed time. One could view this like a freeway that has optional freeway exits along the way at certain times, and ultimately at a certain point has a definite non-optional end. This means that a person can take an “early exit” where they were just too tired or discouraged and consciously or subconsciously gave up so when a Divine Timing freeway exit came along at a pre-ordained time, they conferred w/their angels and took it. There’s no bad karma for taking an optional early exit, since it is part of Divine timing. Most people do not take early exits, and they keep going until the very end of their freeway, and that’s when they cross over. Everyone’s freeway is a different and unique length set up during life planning, and the optional exit ramps are also at pre-decided intervals. So if someone crosses over at 18 or at 88 it still could have been the very end of their respective freeways for that lifetime.

Everyone goes to Heaven
Yes, people of all temperaments, views and beliefs, even people who have harmed others cross over. Heaven is big enough for everyone, and everyone needs Divine help and healing to finish realizing the lessons of their recent life, to experience learning and growing further in Heaven, and to plan and prepare for their next lifetime. When someone gets to Heaven any dark or destructive energy they got mixed up with in the life is lifted from them and they are made whole again so they can make the most of being in Heaven. The making-whole process may take a while depending on the state of their energy towards the end of their life. Learning lessons that were unfinished at the end of the lifetime are preserved so the person can complete them in a future lifetime when they are ready.

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