Being Present Moving Forward

A blog about meditation & personal growth by psychic Janet Wright

Life Is A Journey, Not an Exam: A Lighter Look at Life Purpose

Hey guys! So in the psychic readings I do I often get questions about life purpose. Then I did just get an email from a client having doubts about if she is fulfilling her purpose, or if she is failing. Also just the other day shifting perceptions of life goals or life purpose came up with another client I read. The nutshell angel answer is: Life is a journey, not an exam. You can't fail a journey.

BTW the rest of the post is not a nutshell. :-) The point of a journey is to experience it, to learn from it, and to grow or evolve. Basically the more I talk directly to angels the more I hear that angels have trouble communicating to people at times because the messages get lost in translation. For example, say someone decides they want to do what they love for a living. They are sure that xyz is their life purpose, and they set out to make it happen. Years later, is it wrong for them to re-examine that purpose if they have not reached their chosen goal? Of course not. Would it mean they failed spiritually? No way. Would it mean they should stop wanting anything and that they were wrong to want that earlier goal years ago? Nope.

Generally the angels tell me that real life purpose is more simple & fundamental or underlying than a specific career. For example say you like writing songs. Are you failing if you are not a professional song writer? Of course not. It could mean that the simple underlying thing is to be creative or expressive, which could be expressed in so many ways, like wearing the clothes you want, or journalling, or having a creative hobby, finding creative solutions to your work-life balance issues, etc. The angels tell me that often people over value money and financial validation. Of course the angels want you to be able to eat and have shelter, but would it be a failure if your more creative endeavors were more personal and not professional? No. Sometimes our imbalances make us see only a very complicated version of our purpose, one that might not fit us in this lifetime. Being able to love and accept yourself more and more (not perfectly) is definitely a victory, regardless of how you make a living. Angels are super patient and super loving, so no they are not getting angry that you are not achieving x, y, or z. Remember, simplicity.

The angels mention to me that career changes are more accepted and possible these days which generally is a positive, but today there is also an idea that if you are really spiritual you should make a great living doing what you most love. That last part may be a mistranslation of the angels' messages in many cases. The angles keep using words like simplicity with me in this context, and also becoming whole. They say that an underlying goal that almost everyone has on a spirit level for a lifetime is to become more whole during the lifetime. So self-healing bit by bit can get you back on your spiritual path, on your way so to speak, because it makes you more whole over time. Releasing heavy energy, healing from earlier wounds also makes you more whole so this can keep you on your spiritual path. Again, examples of underlying simple goals could be things like
living with more courage
living with more peace of mind
living with more self-love
living with more confidence
living with more playfulness
enjoying your life more
taking one day at a time
There is even a way to complicate that too much by thinking "Oh well I have no peace of mind" without realizing that you do have some, and you probably have more than you've had in the past. Celebrating any tiny victory is key and is self-healing and self-motivating. It's about YOUR incremental growth, so compare yourself today to yourself before, not to those around you.

Also people tend to underestimate previous hardship and how that plays into all this. For example if you have had major traumas in your life, they were not accidental nor failures and they do affect the context of your purpose. For example if you were raised in a house with no peace then it would be a pretty worthy spiritual goal to have more and more inner peace, keeping in mind that you start from where you are and don't compare yourself to any other people.

If you have trouble evaluating your life in a positive way, the angels do keep reminding me to say that when you feel bad that's NOT a time to evaluate your life and give yourself a report card. Feeling bad or doomed or "off" means your energy is not very grounded or flowing at that time, which would distort your inner truths toward the negative. Just focus on feeling better and better and don't go into big picture life analysis until you feel much better. To get back some positive vibes with all this, I suggest doing things that are simple and grounding that reconnect you with your body, like eating protein, going on walks, feeling your legs and feet when you walk in your house, giving yourself a quick hand or foot rub, listening to uplifting music, smelling nice smells say from incense or candles, watching something funny, of course using any of my youtube healing videos or meditation recordings here on my site, etc.

So I hope this wasn't too long. There's so much to say on this topic. :-) For customized healing, reading, and help on this feel free to email me and book a phone reading appointment. My email is on
my contact page. Also if you want to know chakras that can help with uplifting your life-view my top choices would be 7th chakra in the top of the head (goals, identity, creative inspiration) and the 4th chakra or heart chakra in the center of the chest (positive outlook, enthusiasm, self-acceptance, motivation). I have YouTube healing videos on each of those chakras, but you can also start with my free meditation recording called Self-Acceptance 16min or also my Peace Now recording 12min on my Free Meditation Recordings page. For those too jumpy to meditate, you can always download it to your computer then your smart phone & half listen while you do something else, like listen while you make yourself a tasty high-protein meal. Yum! That reminds me it's dinner time. I'm going to go be in the moment with my dinner, which is a big part of my life purpose! :-)

Meditation Question: Is it OK to meditate in public?

This is a question posted by a client onto my YouTube grounding walkthrough video called Psychic Healing Grounding Meditation- Part 1. I posted a short reply to her there on youtube. Since it’s such a frequently asked question, I thought I’d answer it more fully here in the hopes that more people see it.

Here’s her question:
Hi Janet. Is it ok/safe to do grounding or healing chakras/aura in public (eg. on the bus/plane or somewhere else where there are other people around you)? Many thanks :-)

My reply:
Yes it can be safe, useful, and practical to do some level of grounding and self-healing in public, though there are a few tips to consider. By “in public” I mean anywhere not inside your own home, so in your car, at work, in a coffee shop, on the train, walking downtown, in a gym, in a workplace, etc.

Energy Safety tips when working your energy- meditating, grounding, or healing your chakras & aura in public:
1. With your mind ask your angels to help you to be fully safe on all levels as you work your energy.

2. While in public, do energy work that helps you to be more present, such as grounding or basic energy healing on your chakras or aura. When you are more present your body will sponge up energy from the people & environment less. In other words do not do a meditation in public that makes you tune out or feel sleepy. When you tune out or feel sleepy or distracted your spirit is “popping out of or leaving your body.” This is what sleep is for, so when in public try to tune IN, and be present. This way you are more “you” and you sponge up energy from your environment and other people much less. If you want more info & video suggestions on being present in public you can check out my next blog post
Spirituality Question: Can’t I tune out when I’m at work?

meditations to do while in public, I’d say try all of my YouTube videos & any of my meditation recordings except three that I would save for home. The three recordings to save for home are the Confidence meditation 15min, Emotional Gardening 15min, and Deep Thought Webinar 1hr+. Once you practice with a video or meditation recording you can create mini versions that you walk yourself through that can fit into the little minute you have here and there. For specific suggestions you could post a specific question below, or check out the blog post I did called Grounding & Meditation During Vacation & Travel.

Self-Healing Tips to Lighten & Process Grief More Effectively

OK so here’s post 3 of 3 about crossing over, Heaven, boundaries with others who are grieving, and self-healing throughout the process. This post is where I break it down on what is grief from a psychic point of view, and how to heal yourself to clear grief. I link to a helpful video playlist of mine, and end with affirmations to help heal grief. Naturally this post makes way more sense if you read the two posts that came immediately before this first.

What is grief, anyway? My literal spiritual definition or description of grief energy:
Well since this is post 3 of 3 on grief, it’s probably high time I define what I see grief as in the energy system. Grief is the stuck energy in one’s energetic space- chakras, aura, and grounding, that is left over from experiencing one’s loved one cross over. If you want me to define what are chakras and what is the aura you can refer to my new glossary of spiritual & psychic terms. While it can be all chakras, it’s mostly 4th chakra, 2nd chakra, and grounding. I’ll explain more on that further down. A loved one can be human or even a much loved animal or pet, and it can be from this lifetime or from a past life where a loved one crossed over in a past life. Also like most energy things, early experiences you have not fully healed from or processed/released add up. For example let’s say Jack has some grief. His dad just passed away a year ago, so on the surface all the grief Jack feels is from that. However he did have a best friend pass away when he was in high school, and also his dog passed away when he was only 5 years old. Then in various past lives he’s had people close to him pass away, parents, siblings, pets, friends, spouses, children, you name it. His wellness and emotional presence in a lifetime would help to determine whether or not he would fully clear the grief within that lifetime. So if he was less flowing and present that lifetime he would stay relatively more stuck with his grief and it would carry forward as something to evolve beyond in a future life. This is how unprocessed grief from earlier in this life or even from past lives makes it more challenging for you to handle new grief-causing experiences. Put another way, new grief-causing experiences trigger old repressed unresolved grief. But don’t worry, self-healing can fix it and make everything lighter and easier. Jack can heal himself and have a much happier life! In another example, even Jack’s friend Jill could be helped by clearing grief that is unresolved from past lives. Jill is pretty zen about grief situations in this life, but even she has a bunch of past life grief she doesn’t know about. If Jill clears her past life grief through intention and self-healing, it will free up a bunch of her energy, and therefore help her with her focus, clarity, intuition, and fulfillment in this life.

Doesn’t my grief prove I loved my parent/friend/child? Shouldn’t I keep my grief? I heard that it never goes away. (nope)
Many people think that grief is always hard to get through and it’s because we loved the person who crossed over soooooo much. Some people even think it’s some form of devotion to their loved one that makes the grief hurt so much and last so long. Yes grief needs to be acknowledged and accepted as part of the healing process, and it’s good to be patient, nurturing, and nonjudgmental with yourself, but beyond that no one benefits from all your grief lasting so long. Your loved one is AOK getting the healing and counsel and rest that they need in Heaven. They are fine. Even your dog/cat who crossed over is fine too. They go to Heaven, get healed, then visit you as what I like to call your angel-dog or angel-cat, and still like to sleep by your feet, hang out with your new pets, and follow you into the kitchen. For you here in the lifetime of course healing and clearing grief takes time, but all your loved ones in Heaven would like you to be fine ASAP. In family/people situations they usually don’t even care about their estate anymore, so who gets what is the last thing on their minds. Being in Heaven elevates your consciousness, and the life review process they get in Heaven deepens their understanding of the big picture. Now that they are in Heaven, they want you to heal and enjoy yourselves, often more than they did in their lives. As one mom in heaven put it as I read her daughter, “I want you to be the way I didn’t teach you to be, but now I wish I had. I want you to live your own life, to balance and heal yourself, not to rush or worry so much, to figure out and do what really makes you happy.”

Grief builds up most in the 4th (heart) chakra, the 2nd chakra, and grounding. For now I suggest using some combination of my YouTube videos, guided meditation recordings from here on my website, and also affirmations you say yourself. Here is the youtube playlist I just put together of all my relevant self-healing videos called Grief: Heal your 4th chakra, 2nd chakra, & grounding to help clear grief & sadness. NOTE: I am happy in the videos so only watch if that’s OK. Most of the videos in the playlist were not made expressly for clearing grief but they can work well for it. There is a video about crossing over in the playlist too. Coming within a month I hope is a new $5, 20min guided meditation recording that incapsulates all this healing into one recording made specifically to clear grief. The angels bumped it up on my to-do list. Sooooooo when that is ready in a month or so I will write a blog post to announce it which will be linked here.

If it were only you going through this process of having your loved one cross over, you’d need extra healing for your

  • 4th chakra (self-love, self-nurturing, love, enthusiasm, passion)
  • 2nd chakra (emotions, sensuality, sexuality)
  • grounding (letting go, releasing down to the center of the earth, stabilizes & comforts)

Since it’s not just you and you will know others grieving at the same time, or know others who know of and respond to your grief process, you will also need to add
  • clearing energy whacks (damage to aura & possibly chakras caused by thrown energy, also defined in my glossary of spiritual & psychic terms)
  • clearing energy chords (draining or manipulative energy connections)
  • practicing giving cleanly, or calling your unique life force energy back.

So once again, here is the youtube playlist I just put together of all my relevant self-healing videos called Grief: Heal your 4th chakra, 2nd chakra, & grounding to help clear grief & sadness. It covers all the bullet point items above, so helping with your grief and also with your boundaries and energetic safety with others throughout the process.

Affirmations to help process, clear, or move through grief
Affirmations can work as mini-meditations particularly if when you say them in your mind you try to be very present. To get more present you could stretch you could feel your breath, and feel your toes wiggle, and re-do your grounding before saying an affirmation. Ideally you want to be very present and imagine the idea of the affirmation as a healing for your body, mind, and spirit.

Angels please help me to learn what I am meant to learn in a gentle way throughout this experience.

I am fully open to Divine assistance.

Angels help me to make time for the rest and self-healing that I need at this time.

I will let my angels help, guide, and protect me today, and also tonight in my sleep.

Angels, help me to learn to have healthy & strong energy boundaries with my family & friends throughout this experience.

Here’s a multi-sentence affirmation to help with clearing or moving through grief. Edit or shorten as you wish.
I am an eternal spirit.
I have experienced and cleared grief many many times in many lifetimes.
I am open to using my inner eternal wisdom, subconsciously & consciously.
I am never alone.
I am fully open to Divine assistance on all levels.
I can do this.

OK so that’s it! I hope it helps. Please feel free to let me know what this post means to you, or any follow questions or comments you have. Posting anonymously is easy and welcome.